Please undelete my answer regarding the worthlessness of high school friendships

Question

So, I posted an answer to this question, which has now been closed, and when I logged on today, I saw that my answer was, for some reason, deleted. Users with the required rep can see the language.

The comment left by was "This doesn't provide useful, practical guidance, but rather propagates an unhealthy attitude towards others (see V2's comment)." I strongly disagree.

V2Blast also left this comment:

The issue isn't necessarily that society sees these things as bad/reasons to look down on someone. Rather, the issue is that your answer is implying those things are bad/reasons for the querent to look down on someone. That is to say, you're not commenting on/criticizing society unfairly portraying them as such; you're essentially saying "don't care what they think now, because they might end up as a single mother or a janitor [which is a bad thing]". I'd suggest editing your answer to avoid such an implication if that's not your intent.

I believe that my answer contains very useful, practical guidance, and that it promotes a much more healthy attitude towards others than the OP's current, overly attached attitude, even if it's sort of cynical. I've edited my post to make my point about investment someone more apparent, so can my post please be undeleted?

Answer 1

Your personal views seem to be at odds with the site's code of conduct

The site's code of conduct states

We don’t tolerate any language likely to offend or alienate people based on race, gender, sexual orientation, or religion — and those are just a few examples. Use stated pronouns (when known). When in doubt, don't use language that might offend or alienate.

While your views do not concern religion or any other of the domains specifically cited, the cited passage is clear on the fact that these are only examples and that the rules extend to opinions which people might reasonably find offensive for other reasons.

And while I am not a single mother or a janitor, I do see that I might be offended by your views if I were.

The reaction to your answer shows that other people share my perspective - they even told you so and kindly asked you to review your answer.

The basic idea of your answer seems helpful

Saying that highschool friendships are usually temporary or that overreliance on others' opinions can be unhealthy seems to be useful advice.

However, we don't know who of the students from OP's school will become janitors later and saying that they shouldn't befriend those people if we did, is an opinion which is not endorsed on this site which the code of conduct clearly states.

Note, that these two points can be regarded separately. I, for example, agree on the first one but strongly disagree on the second one. So, separating these two views and basing an answer on the first one would be helpful and probably cause much less disagreement, because it is in line with the fundamental principles of the site.

Answer 2

No.

Your answer and question violate the Stack Exchange Code of Conduct.

First, the introduction to the Code of Conduct says:

Whether you’ve come to ask questions or to generously share what you know, join us in building a community where all people feel welcome and can participate, regardless of expertise or identity.

We commit to enforcing and improving the Code of Conduct. It applies to everyone using Role-playing Games Stack Exchange and the Stack Exchange network, including our team, moderators, and anyone posting to Q&A sites or chat rooms.

Your description and opinion of single moms, janitors, and overweight persons runs contrary to the stated purpose of the Code of Conduct, that is, to make all people feel welcomed here on the stack.

Now, the details:

We don’t tolerate any language likely to offend or alienate people based on race, gender, sexual orientation, or religion — and those are just a few examples. Use stated pronouns (when known). When in doubt, don't use language that might offend or alienate.

Denigrating the worth of people is not only likely to offend or alienate them, it is intended to do just that.

Undeleting your answer would be a violation of the Code of Conduct. Our hands are tied, sorry.

Your attitude is disgusting.

The way you describe people as only something to be used for a profit is absolutely vile. It is the very same attitude maintained by slave owners throughout history - that a persons worth is based only on what they can do for me. It isn't welcome here, and if you don't change it, neither are you (as explained in the Code of Conduct).